Words

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Proverbs 18:21

Sticks and stones, right? It is easy to say that words don't hurt, but the truth is that words have power. You may remember some of the happiest words you've ever heard, and these words made your heart swell. Also, we have been the receivers of hurtful words, and there are probably instances in which you can remember the exact phrase that broke your heart. And we ALL have dished out some hurtful words as well. 

It is easy to fall into the trap of gossip or putting others down. Groups of women sometimes get together and start in on the "man bashing." As wives we ought to honor our husbands at all times. This includes honoring our husbands with our words.

We can also honor our husbands by the words we speak to them, not just the words we speak about them. It seems that sometimes we speak more kindly to strangers than we do to our own spouses. Our men love to hear words of affirmation. There are many things that impress us about our husbands. We married them, right? Think on these things and don't forget to tell him so! A kind word diffuses a bad day or a frustrated attitude. Make it a point to tell him the many things you love and admire about him. Just because. 

When we put forth the extra effort to be kind, even when we don't feel like it, we are allowing the grace of Jesus to flow through us. When we show grace, we are loving well. 1 Peter 4:8 reminds us, Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

When we use kind words, full of grace, you might be surprised to find that your spouse gives you a little more grace as well.

Lord, help us to always use our words to bring life. Help us to encourage and build up our husbands with the perfect love and grace only possible through You.          


Julie Smith